It got out at work that I was not going out to lunch with my coworkers because I was trying to "lose weight". It was sudden, I didn't talk with my lunch grub team about my plan before hand, just one day, no Harley. Which brings me to the anti-support system. I was very surprised by the behavior of many of my coworkers/friends after I started dieting. My friends were doing everything they could to sabotage my efforts and get me to give up and quit my diet.
Everyday team members would come by and ask me to come with, try to guilt me into coming with them to lunch. Telling me how much I was missed by the group. Telling me, "It didn't matter if I went to lunch, as long as I was exercising I could eat what I wanted." Telling me they wanted to talk to ME about important stuff. Offering to pay for my lunch, offering to drive, letting me pick the place. It was insane! When holidays or work parties came up, I would lay low to avoid the temptation but coworkers would go out of their way to bring me plates of food, or eat food in front of me, spilling it on me in one instance. It was like they were getting desperate for me to give up for me to cave in. It really made me mad and more determined to see it through.
I think part of the reason why this happened is I was doing something they wanted to do but believed they couldn't do because of some obstacles. Seeing me fail would validate their beliefs about how "hard" it is to lose weight or give up food additions and bad patterns of behavior. I was showing them their obstacles were imaginary and that they could lose weight too. They did not have an excuse for not exercising / eating healthy because I was doing it and proving it works and is possible to change. I was showing them it wasn't as hard as they believed it was. This made them uncomfortable, made them question their beliefs about exercise and diet.
Right now a lot of Republicans hope Obama fails, this for me is the same thing. They believe it is too hard to succeed or success has to be achieved through a pattern he doesn't follow and to validate this belief they need him to fail. Otherwise the barriers to their succeess are in fact imaginary; the failures in their own life are due to their choices.
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Interesting commentary, not just taking care of yourself, but from a nationwide perspective.
President Obama has a very difficult job, perhaps the most difficult presidency in living memory. If he fails, we all fail. He represents us, whether we voted for him or not, and we need him to succeed so we can get over what we've got going on.
What happens if you are your own 'anti-support' system. I keep getting in that hard spot where I doubt that I can do it. The fact is, I have never really lost a significant amount of weight. When I did BFL before I had Mya, I saw great results but I had much more control back then. Emotional eating wasn't even on my radar. I am trying not to think about what was and look forward to what I want. But it seems like I am so easy to push over the edge by outside forces. Little by little I guess.
I think you realize that you are the one controlling what you eat and what you look like and even how you feel (eat too much=feel like crap). Go with that knowledge. You are the actor not the object acted upon. You can act differently and are not dependent on outside forces to change, nor are you a victim of bad genes or environment or circumstances. For me it is not about being perfect all at once, it is about a gradual change.
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